Helping Dad with the VA

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Please answer

Calls That Say “VA EXAM”

If we miss the call and miss the exam, the VA can deny the claim. Please answer these calls.
VA EXAM – Loyal Source833-832-7077
VA EXAM – Optum866-933-8387
VA EXAM – QTC800-682-9701
VA EXAM – VES877-637-8387

When they call:

  1. Say YES to the appointment.
  2. Write down the date, time, and address.
  3. Tell them: “Please also call my daughter Nicole, 573-513-0900.”
  4. Ask: “Is there a place near Perryville, or a video visit?”
  5. Call Nicole and tell her the date.

If a text shows a different company, call the VA first to check it is real: 1-800-827-1000.

The schedule

Don’s Appointments

✓ Jul 15 — done
Hearing test. Ask for a printed copy — give it to Nicole.
Mon, Aug 10 — 10:00 AM
VA exam, Perryville (Olde Towne Medical). Local! See the “Aug 10 Exam” tab.
Mon, Aug 24 — 11:00 AM
Mental health visit (Maggie Buckley). See the “Aug 24” tab.
Wed, Aug 26 — 12:30 PM
Agent Orange check-up. See the “Aug 26 Nurse” tab.
Wed, Oct 7 — 10:30 AM
Skin doctor. See the “Later Visits” tab.
Tue, Feb 24, 2027 — 10:45 AM
Hearing follow-up. See the “Later Visits” tab.
Trouble driving? Call the VA hospital at 573-686-4151 — ask about video visits and free rides. The VA also pays mileage.
Good news

Mon, Aug 10 — VA Exam

This is a good thing — the doctor’s exam for Dad’s new claims, right here in Perryville. No long drive.
10:00 AM
Olde Towne Medical Company · 27 W St Joseph St, Perryville
With nurse practitioner Rachel Dibooglu.

What to expect

A “C&P exam” — a medical review for the claim, not treatment. The examiner reads his file, asks about each condition, may do a quick physical check, and fills out VA forms. About 30–60 minutes. No decision is made that day.

Coaching: Describe your symptoms honestly and at their worst — how often, how bad, and how they limit your day. Do not tough it out or play it down. Bring a photo ID and your medicine list.

Be ready to talk about

Bladder (urinary frequency): how many times you go in the day; how many times you get up at night; sudden urges; any leaking or accidents; pads; trouble starting or fully emptying.

Parkinson’s: the shaking hand — which one, when, how bad (dropping, spilling); stiffness; slow movement; shuffling, balance, any falls; smaller handwriting; trouble with buttons, utensils, or cups; the medicine you take for it.

Skin cancer (face & scalp): where the spots are; how many; treatments (cream, freezing, cut out); sun exposure during service; any that keep coming back.

You’ve got this

Mon, Aug 24 — Mental Health

11:00 AM
Mental health visit with Maggie Buckley.

What to expect

A talking visit — no physical exam. The provider asks about mood, sleep, memories, stress, and how you’re coping. It builds Dad’s record.

Coaching: It’s okay to say the hard things here — this is a safe place, and being honest helps. A lot of veterans keep this inside for years. You don’t have to today. Talk about Vietnam, your sleep, and how you really feel, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Be ready to talk about

Sleep & nights: nightmares, waking up scared, gasping, trouble falling or staying asleep.

Memories: thoughts of Vietnam that show up without warning; things you try hard not to think about.

Triggers: loud noises, crowds, fireworks, helicopters — how your body reacts.

On guard: startle easily, sit facing the door, check the locks, can’t relax.

Mood: sadness, guilt, anger, losing interest in things, pulling away from family.

Bring this on Aug 26

Wed, Aug 26 — The Nurse

Say to the nurse: “I served in Vietnam and was exposed to Agent Orange. Please check me for the things on this page.”

What to expect

An Agent Orange check-up. The nurse reviews his exposure and can order screening tests.

Please ask the nurse for

Also be ready to mention: diabetes signs (thirst, peeing a lot, tired), snoring/gasping at night, the hand tremor, back pain that limits walking, numbness or tingling in the legs and feet.

Coming up later

Later Visits

Wed, Oct 7 — Skin Doctor

What to expect: a skin exam; the doctor may freeze, treat, or biopsy spots.

Coaching: Show every spot ever treated or removed. Mention sun exposure during service. Ask them to write down the diagnosis — it helps the skin-cancer claim.
Tue, Feb 24, 2027 — Hearing

What to expect: a repeat hearing test (audiogram) and hearing-aid check.

Coaching: Ask for a printed copy of the audiogram results AND the note before leaving — this matters for the hearing appeal. Describe the real trouble: understanding words, turning the TV up loud, the ringing (tinnitus).
Mary, this is your part

For Mary

Your words count as real evidence. The VA listens to what a wife has seen over 50 years. Nothing you write is wrong.

Jot notes (or tell Nicole) about:

Nicole turns your notes into the paperwork. Dad’s symptoms can go in as his own statement — you just help him remember them.
For reference (Nicole)

Veterans Pension — At a Glance

What it is: a needs-based monthly benefit for wartime veterans with limited income and assets. It is not the same as disability compensation. You can’t get both — the VA pays the higher one.

Requirements

Dollar amounts (max per year, Dec 1, 2025)

SituationNo dependentsOne dependent
Basic pension$17,441$22,839
Housebound$21,313$26,710
Aid & Attendance$29,093$34,488

Pros & cons

ProsCons
Income floor; Aid & Attendance helps pay for care; Don meets the service + age gates. Means-tested (full financial disclosure); look-back penalty on gifts; can’t stack with compensation; reduced by income.
Current decision: letting the pension Intent to File expire on purpose; revisit only if finances or health change.
In plain words

Where Things Stand

The hearing decision
The VA lowered Dad’s hearing rating to zero. We are appealing it.
The new claims
Dad’s new claims (urinary frequency, Parkinson’s, skin cancer) are filed and moving. The Aug 10 exam is part of that.
Back pay for Mom ✓ Done!
Confirmed — $1,005.47 deposited April 10, 2026 for adding Mom as a dependent back to 2024. The money arrived.

As new letters come in, Nicole adds what each one means here.

Questions? Call Nicole any time — 573-513-0900